Let's look at some of our behavior. Are crutches anything other than something that provides us with some form of security? If we were secure in ourselves, would we look externally for security? Then is it fair to say that crutches provide us with a false sense of security?
A few questions. How much of what we do is done hoping and wishing for a certain result?
How much of what we do is to fill a certain need or particular needs? How many of these hopes are realized - how many of them come true, to give us security in our lives? If we were really okay with ourselves, then would we want to do or have any of those things that provide us with supposed security?
Maybe not. Even so, consider how much of what we do in our everyday lives that might fall into this category: doing things for the security doing them supposedly provides us, perhaps much more than we realize or would like to admit. If this is the case, then just maybe we aren't okay within ourselves.
Let's consider the following behavior: Say we do something for someone else, perhaps to be in that person's good graces. Then to be in that person's good graces gives us something.
Say we amass wealth so we can consider ourselves as "having arrived" or to have status. Is this newly found status, or "having arrived," a form of making us feel secure? And again, if this is the case, then if we were already secure within ourselves, would we have pursued accumulating wealth?
Say we associate with a certain person because we feel that person understands us, and without that person, we wouldn't have anyone else to associate with who understands us. Through this association, we feel secure within ourselves. Again, if we were already secure within ourselves, would we then have this association?
We do some things for the security they provide us. Like associating with certain people, or our expensive house, luxurious car, or "status job," not just because we need those for what they are - for example, the car is only needed for transportation.
Should this happen to you, is this not an indication that these things didn't really serve you? That they instead provided you with a false sense of security?
A few questions. How much of what we do is done hoping and wishing for a certain result?
How much of what we do is to fill a certain need or particular needs? How many of these hopes are realized - how many of them come true, to give us security in our lives? If we were really okay with ourselves, then would we want to do or have any of those things that provide us with supposed security?
Maybe not. Even so, consider how much of what we do in our everyday lives that might fall into this category: doing things for the security doing them supposedly provides us, perhaps much more than we realize or would like to admit. If this is the case, then just maybe we aren't okay within ourselves.
Let's consider the following behavior: Say we do something for someone else, perhaps to be in that person's good graces. Then to be in that person's good graces gives us something.
Say we amass wealth so we can consider ourselves as "having arrived" or to have status. Is this newly found status, or "having arrived," a form of making us feel secure? And again, if this is the case, then if we were already secure within ourselves, would we have pursued accumulating wealth?
Say we associate with a certain person because we feel that person understands us, and without that person, we wouldn't have anyone else to associate with who understands us. Through this association, we feel secure within ourselves. Again, if we were already secure within ourselves, would we then have this association?
We do some things for the security they provide us. Like associating with certain people, or our expensive house, luxurious car, or "status job," not just because we need those for what they are - for example, the car is only needed for transportation.
Should this happen to you, is this not an indication that these things didn't really serve you? That they instead provided you with a false sense of security?
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